that's basically how my argument with michael ended today. we love each other, we wanna be together, but the person that said relationships are not hard work, lied. in my case, we are two completely different people, with different beliefs, very, very stubborn and if all those reasons weren't enough to make us have arguments, insert the fact that we also have completely different cultural background.
yes, i love michael but i won't come here and say our relationship is perfect, because it's not. i am a person that tend to give up on hard things easily, so to say that i work hard not to let things affect me daily, is very true.
little things that for me are common, for him are not. some things he says that are completely natural to him, i think it's extremely offensive. he feels the same about some things i say. no, i'm not saying we argue everyday. not even close. in over a year that we've been together, we only had three our four major arguments. we compromise most of the time, but some times i find myself saying "man, this is too hard, too much work" and then i sit down, and re-think and tell myself that not everything in life is going to be easy. that although i've had things fairly easy all my life, relationships involve people, feelings and emotions. Not only me, but two people. And you're supposed to work with your partner, and be less judgmental and open to differences.
i don't really believe people that say they have perfect relationships and never argue. i don't believe people that say they never have bad days when all they think about is saying screw it all, i'm done. how would that be possible to have a perfect relationship when there's no perfect person? yeah, i thought relationships would be easy to deal with because when there's love involved, nothing can be too hard, huh? but i was wrong. love is, sometimes, not enough. you gotta have love, you gotta compromise, you gotta be patient and be persistent. it's hard work. and it makes you change attitudes you've had your whole life and changing is scary and difficult.
but you know what? it's worth it. he is worth it. what we have together is worth it.
and that's why i keep working on it. day after day.
2 comments:
Well said! It's definately not easy some times & I know my other half & I can be mega moody & stubborn at times but it's really worth it in the end & that's why it all works out in the end. Love's a weird thing sometimes! :-) x
You said it so well. No relationship is ever perfect that's for sure. It's all about work and compromise and if you are not willing to compromise there would definitely be some issues. I am glad that you are able to work things out with your fiance.
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